recreational intimacy vs intellectual orgasm

i've been having very stimulating conversations with my friends these past few days, and these 2 terms were coined by 2 very very talented friends of mine**.

i guess it was abit of a challenge for my pea brain to conprehend recreational intimacy, but after getting past that, i asked myself which i wanted more, or rather, which was the lesser of the evils.

consider the two propositions. imagine having to choose between the two... now, which one wld i want? well, ideally, i wld like to have both, but let's face it, no ideal world, no free lunch.

i'm considering what my ideal guy is like... i've been asked so many times, and yet, i've never seriously thought abt it. i always told myself things like, "i'll know it when i see it" but doesn't that equate to love at first sight? hum... and since i believe that i will fall in love with someone's character and personality rather than his looks, so wldn't it be more correct to say, "i'll know it when i feel it" ? but that sounds gross, so yea.

(on a side note, something really disgusting happened to me today, and i'm too horrified to talk abt it)

so then since i don't know what i want, the next logical thing is knowing what i don't want. and as much as i try to be objective and not superficial, i have certain standards. minus the physical and material status of the guy in question, i wld want someone that inspires me, one that wld be uplifting me rather than pulling me down.

now, there's a difference between a sporting boyfriend and a spontaneous one. of cos it's a give or take, and ideally (yes, i seem to live in a cinderella world) it'll be 50-50. but i'll honestly be happy with a 40-60. i don't think i can handle anything less than that.

and to add to my demands list, i want someone that i can have an intellectual conversation with. not just abt work or gossip right, but serious in dept stuff. i don't think i've shared my deepest inner thoughts with anyone in a long time. an intellectual orgasm once in a while wld be nice, not too many at one short or i might risk going into spasm. haha. basically he has to stimulate me, to make me think and analyse and add my 2 cents worth.

i personally don't think i'm a fan of recreational intimacy, but def not procreational intimacy. maybe i'll prefer somewhere in between. no pun intended.

so there's that. i want someone who's spontaneous, sporting and stimulating. comon, that's not too much to ask... right?!


**royalties going out to yy and jc

tania @ 8:43 PM | |